Chapter 4006 4008 [Life is like a journey against the odds]
“Solution, how to solve it?” Feng Xuejiao asked doubtfully.
"Find an opportunity to get them together and ask straight to the point whether they can still live together and whether the marriage can last. If they can live well, live well; if they can't live well, get together or break up." Xiang Nan replied,
"Otherwise, arguing every day and night is just like cutting flesh with a dull knife. You are not comfortable, your mother is not comfortable, your dad is not comfortable, no one is comfortable, and all three parties lose. It is better to break up and let each of us be fine."
"Are you asking my mother and father to divorce? How can that be done? No, absolutely not." Feng Xuejiao was stunned and waved her hands repeatedly.
"Then since you don't want to solve this matter, you can only persuade yourself to ignore it." Xiang Nan nodded, "Actually, if you think about it, starting from today, how long can you and your parents get along? ?
There is still one year left in high school, and your mother and father don’t come home more than once a month. Even if they go home, you are busy studying and only see them during meals.
I assume they are at home five days a month, and you eat two meals with them, and each meal lasts fifteen minutes, which is only two and a half hours in a month, and only thirty hours in a year. Even if the winter and summer vacations are included, and the meeting time is doubled, it will only be sixty hours, or two and a half days.
After you go to college, you will only be able to go home during the winter and summer vacations at most. When you go home, your parents are busy with work, so you still have very little time to see each other, almost the same as when you were in school.
Winter and summer vacations are calculated as four months, with two and a half hours per month. Four months is ten hours. Four years of college, forty hours, only one and a half days.
After graduating from college, you have to stay and work in other places. You can only go home during the Spring Festival, May Day, and National Day. After returning home, you won't always be with your parents, but you will also have gatherings with classmates and friends. Then you will spend less time together.
In a few years, you will get married. During the holidays, you and your husband will have to discuss whether to go to his house for the holidays or go back to your house for the holidays. Calculating it as half per person, the time you spend with your parents together has to be halved.
Let me roughly estimate that the time you and your parents are likely to spend together in the future will not exceed two months at most, which is even shorter than the time you spend with your classmates.
They are destined to fade out of your life. In this case, treat them with a normal mind. You don't have to worry about gains and losses all the time and make yourself at a loss. "
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Hearing what Xiang Nan said, Feng Xuejiao, Wang Di and Huang Shu were all stunned.
In their hearts, their parents are the closest people to them and can never be separated.
But according to Xiang Nan's calculations, in the next few decades, the total time they spend with their parents may only be a few months, making them like strangers.
They really didn't want to believe Xiang Nan's words, but for a while they didn't know how to refute.
“Qin Li, are you wrong? I will only have a few months to spend with my father and my mother in the future?” Feng Xuejiao asked in disbelief.
"Although it is unbelievable, this is indeed the law of life." Xiang Nan nodded and said, "Just like in nature, every baby bird will leave its nest when it grows up. Every beast will also leave its nest after it grows up. Have your own territory.
As we grow older, our parents are destined to occupy less and less of our lives. When we are young children, our parents are our gods. Our lives revolve around our parents. We will cry when they leave for a while.
Now, no one will cry when their parents are gone for ten days and a half. When we grow up a little bit, we go to college and enter the society, and we don’t go home for half a year. When you grow older, get married, have children, and have your own family, you will have less contact with your parents. Calling once a week, going back on May Day, National Day, and Spring Festival are all considered rare.
So we cannot ignore our parents, but we do not need to take them too seriously. It seemed as if the sky would fall once they left. After all, we have grown up and are no longer children. "
“That makes sense.” Huang Shu nodded.
Feng Xuejiao thought for a moment and felt that Xiang Nan was right.
She always felt that her parents were inseparable and indispensable.
But in fact, she has not spent much time with her parents in recent years. Especially in the past six months, her mother has started to do business and often does not come home for ten days and a half.
And she is getting used to it, without her mother at home. She hadn't missed her mother much after being away for ten days and a half. She even thought it would be okay if she didn't come home, since she would still be quarreling when she came home.
Unlike in kindergarten or elementary school, when I get home from school, I go to my mother first. Watching TV, going to the park, and shopping malls with her mother are the happiest things for her.
“Life is like an adverse journey, and I am also a traveler.” Wang Di suddenly sighed, “We are all like this, we are all passengers. We are destined to get off the bus when we arrive at the station. No one can sit with the other until the end.”
“But I want to sit with you until the finish line.” Feng Xuejiao cried immediately after hearing this.
She has always been full of emotions and is easily excited.
“We all want this.” Xiang Nan sighed, “But it’s destined to be impossible.”
Friends all go through stages. No matter how sincere, pure and strong a friendship is, it cannot withstand the erosion and baptism of time.
"Yes, there is always a banquet in the world. It is also written in the middle part of "A Dream of Red Mansions". The Grand View Garden is so beautiful and the twelve golden hairpins are so wonderful. After all, they cannot escape the cry of thousands of reds and the same sorrow for eternity." Wang Di nodded.
“I don’t want this, I don’t want to be separated from you.” Feng Xuejiao cried even harder when she heard what they said.
"Okay, stop crying, Jiaojiao, aren't we all here now?" Huang Shu saw this and hugged her quickly.
"Yes, there is no point in thinking so much now, because we never know what will happen in the future." Xiang Nan also advised, "You can wait for those who come, and you can't chase the dead. The most important thing is to seize the moment. As long as we get along well now and every day is meaningful, then even if we are separated in the future, we will leave the best memories in each other's hearts."
"Qin Li is right." Wang Di nodded, "Feng Xuejiao, please stop being pretentious."
“I hate it, you are so pretentious, I just feel it.” Feng Xuejiao sobbed.
"Okay, okay, stop bickering." Xiang Nan waved his hand and said, "We were busy chatting. It's already two o'clock and we haven't written a word yet. Hurry up and take out the test papers to do it. If you don't pass the college entrance examination , why talk about 'prospect' and 'future'?"
Hearing what he said, Wang Di, Huang Shu, and Feng Xuejiao all nodded, then took out the test papers and started working on them.