The more Gu Lei listened, the clearer his heart became, and the more he understood how hard it is to be a patriarch.
"I can't finish talking about it for a few days. There is no need for others to ask. The direct descendants have thought about everything and done it. After leaving the capital, we went to pick up the married daughters of the Li family, but in the end they chose to stay with their in-laws. The difficulty is also to leave a way for the Li family to return to the capital."
Grandpa Li closed his eyes, "My mother's family fled like bereaved dogs. Can a married woman have a good life? One can imagine the hardships involved."
"But they still chose to stay. This is how the news from the capital came. When the drops gather to form a river, the hearts of the people can be united."
"The reason why the Gu family is not united is because you have not done enough. Your kindness has not benefited everyone, and you have not let them feel the benefits of the big family. On the contrary, they are not as free as the people outside, and you even have to sacrifice yourself. Get out of the way, I didn't get any benefit from you, now I have to take another shot, why?"
"I can't even support my family. My father and grandfather also sacrificed their lives for the Gu family. I am still a widow but have no benefits. No one mentions the credit of my father and parents. The future outside is uncertain, and life is very tight at home. If my father is still alive, can I live better."
Grandpa Li's words were deafening, and they hit the depths of Gu Lei's heart.
He also lost his father and uncle. At this time, it is difficult and exhausting, so he understands these words more deeply.
It's like a knife piercing people's hearts, and the painful heart is trembling.
"Child, the patriarch is not that easy to do. Look at your uncle. You will be free for one day when you come here. After you get home from rest, you will also look around. Just ask."
"Even if the eldest daughter-in-law and Yu'er have done a good job, he will still go around from time to time, not to go through the motions, but to tell everyone in the family. You are all in my heart, I think of you, but I haven't had a chance to move Take time out to arrange the children's future, give me some time, I have not forgotten you."
"Grandpa, I was wrong. I didn't do enough. I shouldn't blame everyone for not helping me and not being of one mind."
"That's right, child, you have to allow the side branch to have its own little thoughts. Everyone wants to live a good life, want to have a good life, want to have a good life, and want their children and grandchildren to have a future. What's wrong with this idea?"
Grandpa Li is teaching Gu Lei, he is generous and tolerant.
"yes."
"A good future will come to you first. The banquet in the palace, the position in front of His Highness the Night King is not qualified to stand in front of His Royal Highness except you. Then others are a little cautious, why can't they tolerate it? I can't get any benefits and I can't be envious."
"Yes, I made a note."
"When you feel sad, think about your third uncle, and think about Yu'er and her second uncle, who were all born to the same father. Why should you sacrifice for the eldest brother and the family? If you want the family to be strong and prosperous, you can't rely on one person's talents and ability, but the whole clan is truly powerful when united.”
"Grandpa, is this the reason why my uncle doesn't let Yu'er stand out?"
"Yeah, and no."
Grandpa Li smiled, and took the hot tea from Gu Lei.
"I know that Yu'er has the ability to be a general, and in fact she is. But I can't let her go out and enter the world."
"A general is very hard, not a woman's job. I am only this one granddaughter, and I don't want her to spend half her life, shrouded in horse leather."
"Another, the family needs to be strong. If the family is dominated by women instead of men, it will also be a heavy blow to the family."
"Outsiders will think that your son already needs a nepotism, and treat women like men and work hard to have a chance to show his face. The men in this family are all trash."
"Whoever dares to marry you, whoever dares to cooperate with your family, the whole room is full of trash."
Grandpa Li is a standard patriarch.
"..."
Gu Lei didn't say a word, he didn't fully agree in his heart, he still thought that Yu'er had been wronged.
"Yu'er's talent can do other things, she can do more, contribute to the people, to the sons of the family, there is no need to go outside to let people point and attack her reputation, and let other children of the family resent her for only focusing on herself and ignoring others life and death."
"If Wei's second child dies, there will be Li's second child and Wang's second child to attack her. This world will never lack bad people who use the reputation of your daughter's family to attack you, until you die."
Grandpa Li loves Li Yu very much, and he doesn't want her to be contaminated with any bad things, and he doesn't want his granddaughter to have the slightest danger or badness.
Boss Li thinks the same way. These are the eyeballs of the father and son. They have been carefully considered from birth to marriage, and they have chosen the longest and most stable path, and they will protect them for a lifetime under their noses.
Li Yu originally shouldered the important task of marriage, but she has paid a lot to the clan, and the direct line has also contributed to the clan, so the clan is willing to let her marry the Gu family and fulfill her.
In fact, marrying Gu Lei has too little benefit to the Li family, and it loses the meaning that the eldest daughter should have.
Marrying a powerful family like the Yang family has more benefits than marrying the Gu family, but Li Yu will not be happy or happy, the clan did not hesitate to back down a step, and would rather give up the benefits they got to fulfill the child, just hope that she is happy.
"Grandpa, I will protect Yu'er, thank you for helping me."
Gu Lei knows that the current Gu family has climbed up to this family. It is his uncle and grandfather who love him and treat him as his own grandson, so they gave him the most precious girl.
"In my eyes, you and Brother Rui and Xi are the same. They are both my grandsons. If you have any difficulties, just come back and tell me. My old man will support you, and the Li family is also your support. Don't be afraid, just go and do it. I believe you will do better than your father, and your father will be happy under the nine springs."
Gu Lei nodded vigorously, his eyes were slightly red.
Grandpa's heart-to-heart teaching also made Gu Lei more peaceful and stable, and he became more disciplined in doing things.
Gu Lei also imitated Boss Li's example. When he returned home, he brought gifts and went to the old, weak, widowed and widowed homes first.
"Fifth Grandma, let me come to see you. I brought you rheumatism ointment. Yu'er and her ninth uncle made it. You should use it well, and I will go for you later."
"Good boy, I'm much better. Sit down quickly. I see that you have become much thinner and your chin is sharp. Don't be too tired and take care of your body."
Fifth Grandma looked at the thin Gu Lei, and sighed distressedly, the child is not easy.
His father was older than him when he took over the Gu family, and the old man was watching. Poor brother Lei lost his father and uncle, and supported the Gu family alone.
"I'm fine. I'm young and strong. I brought you some bacon. It's home-grown. It tastes good. You can save it for Shiliu."
"Okay. Thanks to you coming to see us from time to time, we old guys let you worry about it. Is your grandpa still in good health?"
"The body is good and bad, and it needs to be taken care of. The doctor said to make him happy and not depressed..."
Gu Lei smiled wryly.