Chapter 294, Speaking from Experience
Cheng Yang and Yongchuanhou were surprised to find that their son hadn't gone to Wuchangbo's mansion these days.
The two of them called Fan Mingyu's servant over and questioned him, only to find out that his son had quarreled with the sixth girl of the Shi family.
Hou Yongchuan looked at Princess Chengyang with a smile: "I'm right, there's no need for us to intervene, Mingyu and the girl from the Shi family will have conflicts."
Princess Chengyang poured cold water on her and said, "The two had quarreled before and they made up after a while."
Yongchuan Hou continued to laugh and said: "Young men and women, when they first met each other, they would think that each other is the best, and they would try their best to tolerate them if they had conflicts; but as they get along for a long time, the feeling of heartbeat is gone, and the tolerance is self-sufficient. will fall."
"Similar things, when we first met, I thought it didn't matter, but later, I felt that it was a big problem. If the problem is big, there will be more trade-offs, and you will start to choose."
Princess Chengyang showed approval, thought for a while and asked: "What does Hou Ye mean, should we continue to ignore it?"
Yongchuanhou: "If we intervene, for Mingyu and the girl from the Shi family who are still in the stage of admiration, they will be enemies that destroy their relationship. The two will join hands and make a concerted effort to make it public."
"But if we don't intervene, and the two have conflicts, they will blame each other and think it is the other's problem."
"I saw that the sixth girl of the family was strong at that time. When she had a conflict with Mingyu, she probably wouldn't bow her head first. Our son is also arrogant, so the two of them would be at a stalemate."
"No matter how good the relationship is, it can't stand the test. If there are too many times, Mingyu will definitely not be able to stand it. At that time, he will naturally stay away from the girl of Shi's family."
Princess Chengyang snorted: "The family background is not obvious, and the temper is not small. I really don't know where the girls of the Shi family have the confidence?"
Yongchuan Hou smiled: "Where else can it come from, our son is used to it."
The couple chatted for a while and then Yongchuanhou went to the front yard. Seeing Fan Mingyu who had come back from the outside, he beckoned him to the front and said unhappy: "The listless outsider saw it and thought something happened to our house!"
Fan Mingyu looked a little embarrassed: "My son knows his mistake."
The Marquis of Yongchuan snorted: "You are the heir of the Marquis of Yongchuan's mansion, and you have made yourself sluggish because of a woman. It really embarrasses my Fan family." Then, he flung his sleeves and went into the room.
Fan Mingyu followed listlessly.
Yongchuan Hou sat down, took a sip of the tea handed by the maid, and then looked at Fan Mingyu angrily: "Father, I really don't know what to say about you, even a girl."
"It's nothing more than a noble girl, but she is a girl from our family whose family background and status are not as good as ours. You are really capable!"
Fan Mingyu replied: "Sixth sister is different from other ladies."
Hou Yongchuan snorted: "Aren't they all women, what's the difference?!"
Seeing his son drooping his head and saying nothing, Marquis Yongchuan was a little helpless. He also thought that his son grew up in Liaodong and didn't have much experience with girls' families. After thinking about it, he decided to teach him some of his own experience.
"Women are actually easy to deal with."
Fan Mingyu looked up at Yongchuanhou, skeptical about what he said.
Marquis Yongchuan saw his son’s disbelief in him, and he was a little dissatisfied, but he decided to start from himself: “Do you think your father listens more to your mother, or your mother listens more to your father?”
Fan Mingyu really thought back seriously.
On the surface, it seems that the father obeys the mother in everything, but if there is anything in the family, the mother actually listens to the father.
Seeing the admiration in his son's eyes, Yongchuan Hou was a little proud: "Women are very simple, no different from raising kittens and puppies." Seeing his son frowning, "If you have no experience in raising kittens and puppies, you have raised horses before." .”
Fan Mingyu disagreed a little: "How can a human and a horse be the same?"
Marquis Yongchuan saw that his son was not enlightened, so he could only break it apart and say: "You see the Shi family girl as a horse in the racecourse. At first, this horse must not want you to get close."
"How to make a horse willing to approach you, I don't need to teach you, right?"
Fan Mingyu: "Feed the horse."
Yongchuanhou: "Yes, feed. The more times you feed, the horse will naturally get close to you."
"But this is not enough, because other people may also feed the horse, or the horse can find food by itself."
"The horse has other choices, so naturally it won't obey you in everything."
"You can't stop others from feeding. What you can do is to make this horse not have the ability to go elsewhere for food and can only rely on you."
Fan Mingyu frowned: "I'm afraid this is difficult to do, right?"
Yongchuan Hou smiled: "It's not difficult to say, Mingyu, you have to know that no matter whether it is a human or an animal, they are all lazy and lazy. If there is ready-made food in front of them, they will no longer be willing to work hard to obtain it."
"Think about it, if you provide exquisite forage that others cannot provide, will the horse choose other people? Will the horse still work hard to find food by itself?"
"Of course, just feeding is not enough, it may make the horse temper. You can properly put the horse in the herd for a run, and then choose another horse to ride, so that the horse feels a sense of crisis."
"You can only rely on you to not be hungry, and you still have the possibility to choose other horses. You said that under such circumstances, would the horse you fancy dare not obey your orders?"
Fan Mingyu half-understood, felt that what his father said made sense, but also felt that there seemed to be something wrong.
Yongchuan Hou continued to laugh and said: "Women like to listen to nice words, and they like to be coaxed and protected by men. What they like is equivalent to feeding fodder to horses."
"Now that you have fallen in love with a fierce horse, you need to spend more time trying to tame her."
"For ordinary horses, it may be possible to win with some fodder, but for strong horses, there must be a game."
After listening to Yongchuan Hou's experience talk, Fan Mingyu didn't feel that he had been enlightened, but he could see his father's attitude, and his father supported him to continue with the sixth younger sister.
With this support, Fan Mingyu's mood became much clearer, he hesitated again and again, and followed Shi Dinghao to Wuchangbo Mansion the next day.
Seeing Fan Mingyu take the initiative to apologize, Shi Fuxin also felt that it was too hasty to feel that the three views were inconsistent because of a quarrel, and also admitted to Fan Mingyu what was wrong.
The two reconciled, and Jin Yuee and Shi Zhenghe who were present all laughed.
The couple both liked Fan Mingyu very much.
Every time the youngest daughter quarreled with Fan Mingyu, both of them were very worried.
Based on the principle of solving problems with problems, Shi Fuxin didn't stop talking about the previous differences, but Jin Yue'e, who was worried that the two would have conflicts again, deliberately changed the topic after mentioning it.
Shi Fuxin was a little helpless, and could only think about finding an opportunity to discuss this issue next time.
After all, influenced by the experience of the Marquis of Yongchuan, Fan Mingyu began to send Shi Fuxin various things every now and then, including everything from food to clothing.
So attentive, not only the Shi family was moved, even Shi Fuxin thought that Fan Mingyu was using his strength to apologize for the previous differences, so he couldn't help being touched.
Just as Qixi Festival was approaching, Shi Fuxin asked An Ran to go to the sewing room and asked for some embroidery thread, preparing to embroider a purse for Fan Mingyu.
(end of this chapter)